"When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. When you ask people about belonging, they'll tell you their most excruciating experiences of feeling excluded. And when you ask people about connection the stories they told me were about disconnection."
"I ran into this unnamed thing that absolutely unraveled connection in a way I didn't understand and had never seen."
"It turned out to be shame. And shame is really easily understood as the fear of disconnection. Is there something about me, that if other people know it or see it, I won't be worthy of connection."
"The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, believe they are worthy of love and belonging."